In this competition of pain, there are no real winners. Everybody loses. Nobody cares anymore. But, pain has no ownership. We all experience it, we all know it, and there is no competition on earth that can evaluate one pain in comparison to another.
We can try to kill, destroy, avoid or compare it, but it probably will still be there. If we only could find a way to change our attitude toward it, we might be able to find a different way to experience and deal with the experience of pain.
Having pain is not a personal thing. People who have experienced pain talk about the beauty of sharing it with somebody else: that magical moment when we realize that somebody actually saw we were hurting, that someone saw us fully, that somebody "out there" acknowledged our pain by being there with us in that moment where the pain is. It does not belong to one master and does not need to be owned.
Pain is natural to our being, just as breathing is. The beauty of it is that when it is accepted and wanted, it transforms itself into wishes, friendship, power, and strength and into our real experience of life itself.